What do you think about when you hear the old adage that when it rains, it pours? The only meaning I’ve ever associated with that saying is that when bad things start happening, more bad things just keep pouring in. Why do we have that connotation so embedded in our belief system? Why can’t it be the opposite—that good things are always pouring in? Try this conversation:
“Hey, how’s it going, Joe?”
“Oh, you know how it is. When it rains it pours! I just got a heck of a deal on a new truck and that dang salesman just insisted on including free oil changes for life. And then when I got home, someone had stuck an envelope in the door with two tickets to tonight’s game. And if that weren’t enough, that sale I’d been working on finally came through with double what I was expecting. Yep, it’s been a hell of a day!”
“Wow! That’s fantastic! Who knows what great things are going to happen next!
Wouldn’t it be great to have those kinds of conversations? Unfortunately, a lot of people are in the habit of looking for the bad. Complaining and commiserating has become an art form, and without it, some folks have a hard time carrying on a conversation. So, in order to maintain relationships—with friends, co-workers, family or spouse—based on this kind of interaction, you have to continually have things to complain about.
And the thing is, it works. Because as long as both parties are mutually miserable—and have a common bond in complaining and struggling—then both are on equal footing in the relationship. However, if one person gains a success, such as winning the lottery or just deciding to not be negative anymore (which are the same thing, by the way) then the common bond of misery and struggle is broken and the relationship will likely go awry very quickly and things must change.
Often, when you shift into a positive outlook and way of being, it helps others make the shift into a happier way of being as well. However, those who are very attached to their identity as a victim probably won’t make the shift with you and will simply find other people to complain and commiserate with—yes, they probably won’t want to be your “friend” anymore because you aren’t giving them what they want.
Now, the reason I even thought about this was because of what’s been happening the last few weeks for me. It really has been a “when it rains, it pours” time and I have had so much good stuff pouring in that I felt a little awkward even mentioning it. (I know! What’s up with that?) So, here’s an overview of the good stuff that has been happening with my compassionate no-nonsense life-transformation guide. Living the Life You Love has just been…
- Named WINNERof the 2013 Independent Publisher Book Awards IPPY Gold Medal for Self Help
- Named WINNER of the 2013 Next Generation Indie Book Awards Finalist Award for Self Help
- Released worldwide in the Spanish translation edition by premier Mexican publisher Santillana under their Alamah imprint.
- Released in the Chinese translation edition by Mufone Publishing Company in Taiwan and available worldwide.
And, the book has also received a long list of new reviews, endorsements and testimonials, as well as having been named to Kirkus Reviews’ Best of 2012. It’s been a fabulous few months! Great things have been happening on the personal side too with more insights and awareness pouring in daily. I love it all!
You too can love what’s pouring in for you! Just start paying attention to your thoughts and words. Start noticing negativity—yours and others’. Start listening for those old sayings (beliefs) that keep you focused on what’s wrong, such as:
When it rains, it pours.
It’s always something.
That always happens to me.
When you notice a negative thought, saying or belief, stop right there and shift it into the positive—in your head and in your words, if possible. Here are new positive shifts for the examples above.
When it rains, it pours and I can’t wait to see what good stuff is coming next!
It’s always something…something good!
Good stuff always happens to me!
See how easy! The key is keeping focused on it and creating a new habit—a new way of living and being.
Your thoughts, words and core beliefs create your world and your experiences. And as you can see, those beliefs can create very different life experiences. So, which version of “when it rains, it pours” do you prefer?
Look for the good!
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