There are things we all want to know—and should know—before beginning work with someone. But for whatever reasons, we aren’t always willing to ask. Whether you choose a traditional psychological counseling route, work with a coach, explore healing from the metaphysical side or some combination thereof, you need to know what to expect.
And really, while a lot of things are important—cost being one of them—the most important is “Will it actually help?” So, before you consider working with anyone—traditional or alternative—ask these questions:
- What do I get from working with you?
- What makes you different?
- What do I have to do?
- How long will it take?
- How much will it cost?
- Will it hurt?
- Why should I work with you over anyone else?
These are things we all want to know and they’re important. Make sure you feel comfortable with the answers you get—and the person giving them. And never EVER let anyone else’s “guidance” trump yours. You are your own best guide to what is right for you, so if it doesn’t feel good, DON’T DO IT!
Here are my answers:
1. What do I get from working with you?
If you read the Testimonials page, you’ll notice a consistent theme–people like they’ve been freed from something they didn’t even know they were carrying.“It feels like a huge weight has been lifted.” “I feel like I have a whole new life. And I do!”
When you’re in a tough place, it’s hard to imagine that you could ever feel those kinds of amazing feelings. You can. You just have to take one step at a time. And before you know it, you could find yourself in the middle of your own amazing new life.
At first, you might start noting that you aren’t as frustrated as you used to be. You might even be surprised that things aren’t pushing your buttons the way they used to. Or that you feel more at ease with people who seem to hold power in your life. You’re no longer walking on eggshells, trying to please everyone and you aren’t constantly worried about what others may think.
And how cool is that you’ve stopped apologizing for everything because you finally realized it isn’t always your fault? That YOU aren’t responsible for everyone else’s feelings?
The very best part though is that you’re no longer beating yourself up. In fact, you’ve forgiven yourself and you now actually like—dare I say LOVE—yourself. Yes, I dare! And it feels great!
And then, out of the blue, it hits you like a ton of bricks—you’ve changed. It seems impossible, but you have. You aren’t the person you were six months ago–or even last week. Somehow, even though things look the say, everything’s changed. You feel better, lighter and brighter, and you see more opportunities, options and choices than ever before–really good ones!
2. What makes you different?The most important difference between my work and many others is that I have a wide variety of techniques and tools and use whatever is needed for you for the place you are at the moment.
3. What do I have to do?
Mostly, you just have to show up. Sure, you’ll have to answer a few questions and maybe think about a few things, but most of the work is done for you.
I do the detective work to find the hidden blocks and then gently guide you through releasing them. You will probably have homework, but it will be stuff that’s easy to remember and fun to do. And the skills you learn during the sessions and through the homework are self-care tools that you’ll have for a lifetime.
4. How long will it take?
Regardless of what you may be promised, there are no magic pills or quick fixes. You can spend a lot of time and money on distractions, or you can do what you know in your heart you need to do–face the real issues. So, that means I have to give you the answer you don’t want to hear about how long it will take—it depends.
It depends on what you want. Some people may only want to take the edge off so they can maintain, and that can happen in a few sessions or even one. Others want to transform their lives in a meaningful and lasting way, and that needs to happen over a period of months.
But take heart. After the first sessions of intensive work, it gets easier and even fun. There’s more time between sessions and you start doing more of the work yourself. That is what it’s all about—empowering YOU!
Now, admittedly, I’m the Queen of Impatience, so I know how it feels to want results yesterday. I also know we have to take things at our own pace—the pace our soul requires—even if we consciously don’t like it. That said, there are some fabulous techniques that can give dramatic and profound results in just one session—I use them. But we can’t just release without having something to fill the void. We need support tools to deal with the shifts and practical real-world skills to give us a solid foundation for the changes. In short, we need time.
5. How much will it cost?
Again, it depends on what you want and what outcomes you’re looking for. You took a unique path getting to this point—you’ve lived through a lot!—and your journey forward will be just as unique. I know, I know, you want details! I wish I could promise you that everything you want fixed in your life would be after only X number of minutes and dollars, but I can’t—no one can.
I can tell you this. Most clients feel different after the first session. Actually, I’ve never had anyone NOT feel changed by the first session, so one session could be all you want. However, the issues built over time and we need time to get the hidden blocks to the surface and release them.
The clients that make the most progress—and achieve lasting life-changing results—are those who work closely with me for several months. It works best to start with 90-minute sessions because that gives us time to get the subconscious on board and open up in the ways we need. After we get through the initial phase, one-hour sessions are generally appropriate. I offer package discounts for 3 or more sessions AND this is fast intensive work, so we pack a lot into each session.
The most bang for the buck is to do the monthly coaching program. It gives you the time you need, as well as email and text access to me between sessions. AND, I create a personalized Vision Script for you based on your needs and goals. That’s a big thing, because it gives you the benefits of subconscious reprogramming while you sleep. And the good part is you don’t have to struggle with figuring out how to do it—it’s all done for you.
6. Will it hurt?
I get a lot of calls from potential clients. Some have read the website and are all in, eager to get to work. Others come with agendas. They’re looking for someone to “just balance their chakras” or to work with them on only specific issues, such as boundaries—everything else is off limits. In reality, what they’re really saying is, “I want to feel better, but I’m really scared. I’m afraid you’re going to make me face something I don’t want to and that it won’t feel good.”
I have great compassion for those who are in that fearful and protective place, but it isn’t a place where authentic healing can happen easily. You simply must be willing to face the dragon before you can slay it. But you don’t have to do it alone. I’ll be there right with you, keeping you safe. And who knows, that fire-breathing dragon you’ve been fearing all these years just might turn out to be just a little firefly.
7. Why should I work with you over anyone else?
There are many great coaches and healers out there and each has something to offer. My unique gift is that I walk the line between worlds.
What I mean by that is whatever world you need to heal in is where we’ll go. And while I’m fully grounded in real-world practical coaching techniques, my work goes far beyond it. From tangible practical goal-setting to spiritual and energetic releases, I take you wherever you need to go.
You won’t have to hop from one thing to another, looking for the next piece of the puzzle—you’ll get what you need. You’ll be able to heal on the deepest subconscious levels as well as the energetic and spiritual. And unlike some techniques, you won’t get bogged down in old dramas or have to relive old childhood traumas—we get in and get out quick. You also won’t get left in the clouds, wondering what happened to reality. I’ll help you walk the line between worlds and blend them into your own path for personal healing and freedom.
You’ll learn how to heal those forgotten and unknown parts of self and you’ll create your own toolbox of self-care techniques that will empower you for a lifetime.
In short, I help you do what you can’t do for yourself—and then I teach you how you can.
Let’s get to it!
I have followed your blog posts and often looked at your website here, but was a little apprehensive about contacting you. The revamped pages here and the six questions answered have me impatiently waiting for it to be late enough to call you and get started on my own journey. Thank you for the clarification.
Will talk soon!
I’m really glad you like the changes! I really enjoyed answering those questions because they really are what we all want to know. Looking forward to our first appointment next week!